We’ve been talking about our homes and being keeper of our homes, in regards to what it smells like and what it looks like. This time, for the final installment in this series, let’s talk about what our homes sound like.
Kind words are like honey—
sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. Proverbs 16:24
We are taught our tongue can be a dangerous member, in the book of James. As the keeper of our home, it is important we are guarding the words that flow throughout the house. What is being said in our house? Is it giving life or death? Is it uplifting or discouraging? Are the words being spoken sweet to the soul?
We set the example and the tone by the words we speak. What helps me is praying aloud, including my son in my prayers. It is important that he hears me actually praying. Also, reciting scriptures aloud is beneficial. At times, I have put scriptures on the walls or the mirrors, not only as a reminder, but when when I see them, as something to say out loud.
When there are multiple people in the home, we have to monitor what they are saying. Small children repeat what they hear. What kind of influence is the TV or music having on the words they speak?
As Moms, it is very important we affirm our children every day. There is so much going on in the world and so many challenges children face. We need to be their safe place, just as God as our Father is our safe place.
Let’s really focus on being the keeper of the home and building up our families.
Yesterday was my 40th birthday.
For me, major birthdays were 16, 18, 21, 30, 32 (like that number), and 40. Each of these birthdays, I thought my life would be in a certain place and seemingly things usually do not turn out the way I thought. For example, for 30, I thought I would enter that decade with fierceness, but I had a liver resection 2 days after my 30th birthday to remove a baseball size tumor. Here at 40, I thought I would be a certain point in my career, business, and family. But I’ve been recently laid off and have yet to be married.
What I thought and what actually is conflict with each other. But, I’m perfectly okay with that, because of what I do know.
There is a difference between think and know. To think is to have a particular belief or idea. To know is to be aware through observation, inquiry or information; to have developed a relationship with someone through meeting and spending time.
I have a hand full of gray strands, but I know 40 is far from being old. I know my son is a phenomenal young man and I’m so blessed and honored to be his mom. I know that I have an incredible family and wonderful friends and even some pretty decent associates. The information I have from Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end,” lets me know the purpose God has for me will come to pass.
I may not be where I thought I would be at 40, but I know I’m where God planned for me to be. His ways are not my ways. I trust Him. I’m excited to be entering this decade and looking forward to what He has for me. I’m thankful for the 40 years to date and I press towards living life on purpose, for purpose. This is 40.
In my house, there are two of us – myself and my very athletic teenage son. He consumes quite a bit of food, because he needs it as a top cross country runner and top long distance runner.
I firmly believe one way I can honor God is by taking care of my home – to include making sure my son has a great nutritious meal. One of his favorite meals is chuckwagon casserole. This recipe is so easy to put together and very filling. I appreciate it is a complete meal with good protein (we use either ground turkey or ground chicken), good carbs, and a bit of fat (we add a bit of olive oil). This recipe is many places online, including here.
My tip to get chuckwagon casserole in the oven quick is to use the PictSweet frozen onion blend OR the PictSweet frozen tri-pepper blend. Already chopped and good to add to the recipe. It may not be the appropriate ratio, but it will be okay. Also, while you are cooking the meat and veggies and adding the sauce, have a family member work on making the cornbread and adding the corn. By the time you are finished with the meat mixture, everything can be added to the pan and into the oven.
I like providing a home cooked meal for my son. He’s the first person I need to show hospitality to. But, it’s over dinner, I have the opportunity to still connect with him. A favorite conversation starter is “High/Low”. When either of us says this, the other person shares their high for the day and the other person shares their low for the day. Sometimes there is an elaboration, however, as my son is an older teen, I find many times there is not. Either way, I have the chance to hear what is going on with him and have things I can pray about for him.
Purposeful parenting is more than “do this, do that”. It’s about looking at the whole child and making sure they are growing properly – physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Parenting is not for the faint of heart!
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. Romans 12:1, NKJV
Those who know me, know I rarely do anything halfway. When I commit to do something, I stay in there, have a firm grip, similar to that of a bulldog holding on to a “catch”. I even broke my ankle in a big way in 2013!
When I serve, for me, it’s not just about doing something all the way. It’s so much more. Paul said, “Present your bodies a living sacrifice…acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.” This scripture offers insight into our purpose.
My parents taught me to be polite and I have passed that lesson on to my son. When someone gives you something or does something for you, you say thank you. God has given me eternal life through Jesus Christ. He has forgiven me of my sins. He has blessed me abundantly. He’s done so much, He absolutely deserves much more than a ‘thank you, Lord’ – although that should be included. Since he owns everything, what else can I offer Him besides the gifts and talents and abilities He has given me? My reasonable service, is to serve whole-heartedly. My reasonable service, the least I can do, is give myself back to Him (He already owns me!). My reasonable service is to present myself as a living sacrifice. He is the Creator. What else can you give Him truly, but yourself?
Let’s live on purpose, for purpose, through a life of service unto God.