For at least 17 families, Valentine’s Day 2018 will not be remembered well. Valentine’s Day is traditionally celebrated as a day of love, but for at least 17 families, this Valentine’s Day is a day they lost love.

A gunman who is associated with a white supremacist group is said to have gone to the Douglas High School in Parkland, FL and murdered 17 students and faculty. Seventeen people who woke up that morning and unfortunately did not make it back to their respective homes.

We may never truly know the gunman’s motive to take people’s lives. Was it the loss of his parents? Was it the reports of being a loner? Was his affiliation with the white supremacist group a breeding ground for a lack of value for other’s lives? As with Las Vegas and Newton and so many other mass shootings, we may never truly know the motive. Why the gunman was unable to legally purchase beer, but was able to legally purchase an assault rifle are debates for another platform.

We should mourn with the families of those who lost their lives. At the same time, we should be vigilant about living. We will be bombarded with well-meaning statics, but it will be important to not be fearful. Those well-meaning statics and all the conversation as to halt a future attack need to be channeled to respective law makers. While simultaneous channeling that energy, live life purposefully.

Tomorrow is not promised. Hug your children more. Make sure you tell them that you love them and are proud of them. Do things that make you happy. Stop working so much. Take time away from social media. We have one life. Live it to the fullest. On purpose. For purpose.


This is 40.

Yesterday was my 40th birthday.

For me, major birthdays were 16, 18, 21, 30, 32 (like that number), and 40.  Each of these birthdays, I thought my life would be in a certain place and seemingly things usually do not turn out the way I thought.  For example, for 30, I thought I would enter that decade with fierceness, but I had a liver resection 2 days after my 30th birthday to remove a baseball size tumor.  Here at 40, I thought I would be a certain point in my career, business, and family.  But I’ve been recently laid off and have yet to be married.

What I thought and what actually is conflict with each other.  But, I’m perfectly okay with that, because of what I do know.

There is a difference between think and know.  To think is to have a particular belief or idea.  To know is to be aware through observation, inquiry or information; to have developed a relationship with someone through meeting and spending time.

I have a hand full of gray strands, but I know 40 is far from being old.  I know my son is a phenomenal young man and I’m so blessed and honored to be his mom.  I know that I have an incredible family and wonderful friends and even some pretty decent associates.  The information I have from Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end,” lets me know the purpose God has for me will come to pass.

I may not be where I thought I would be at 40, but I know I’m where God planned for me to be.  His ways are not my ways.  I trust Him.  I’m excited to be entering this decade and looking forward to what He has for me.  I’m thankful for the 40 years to date and I press towards living life on purpose, for purpose.  This is 40.

Home Series – Part II

Last time in our home series, we talked about the smell of our home.  This week, let’s look at the sight of our home.  Yes, the pun was intended.  Hehehe

to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.  Titus 2:5

As I’ve previously alluded to, my home will not win a white glove award.  However, I feel good that if anyone were to stop by unexpectedly, we would not have to be on a mad dash to throw things in various corners or under various objects to hide the mess.

Clutter free living.

Sure, there’s the “rule” clean as you go or when you pull something out, put it right back up.  As a working single mom, sometimes, I’m doing good just to get something out.  Here are some of my tips to keep the clutter to a minimum.

*Stop buying everything.  I’m so, so, so guilty of this.  It’s hard for me to pass up a great sale – 75% off or more.  I’ve stopped myself from buying things, just because it was on sale.

*Keep the living space livable.  In our living room, I have minimal items.  I have no coffee table and the space on the TV stand is just enough to hold the remotes.  The end tables are out of everyday easy reach and hold pictures and flowers.  I have pillows and a throw.  As a result, there is not much space for items to collect or to clutter.

*Everything has a home and have a home for everything.  This tip would best fall into organization.  I’m a realist.  Not everything will truly have it’s own home and junk drawers do exist for this reason.  Even in that junk drawer, we go through it at least once a quarter and throw out items that simply need to be thrown out.  Old restaurant coupons, old sale circulars, broken pens, items that do have a real home.

With all that we need to do – care for our family, care for ourselves, work, and spending time with the Lord to grow the relationship – please know most homes are not going to be HGTV magazine ready.  The presence of the Holy Spirit, the love in the home, the joy and peace, those are the most critical.  It’s okay to be “good enough”.

On Purpose

Greetings!  Thanks for visiting my blog.  Allow me to introduce myself.

I probably should open with, I’m 40 (July 2017), never married mom of 1, who enjoys reading, writing, and being mom (you can read more of my bio here).  However, what I think you should know about me, is that while I have a tendency to be quiet and reserved, once you get to know me, I’m a talker.  I value intelligent conversations about most things, specifically business, church, family, and the things of God.

I trusted Christ as a young girl and am proud of my Christianity.  While I am far from perfect and a am recipient of grace, I do strive to get it right.  My pursuit of right living is not because of who I am, but because of who He is.  I love God and my love for Him makes me want to please Him and honor Him.

The thing about Christianity some may not fully understand is that, we are in this world, but we are not of it.  So what does that look like?  What does a disciple of Christ look like in a world that is continuously moving away from Him.  We understand that God is strategic and has a purpose for everything.  But how do we rest in that while the world is seemingly getting worse and worse around us?

It is my desire that this blog will help believers pursue a life that is on purpose, for purpose.  Nothing weird.  Nothing spooky.  Nothing where we are holier than thou.  Nope.  We’re in this world and we have people who need to know Christ.  We have good news and while the “compelling men to come” may be a desire to shout from the rooftop, “Jesus saves,” what if we actually act like Jesus….walking and interacting with sinners, yet exuding so much love that they were drawn to Him?

This blog is not so much about me, although I will be transparent.  This blog is not so much about you, although I will probably be outspoken about a few things.  This blog is about us.  Us.  The ambassadors of Christ.

Here’s to living on purpose, for purpose, fellow ambassadors.